Okay so, I guess I should apologize for telling you to shut up in the title. I may or may not be directly speaking to you in this post and if I’m not, I’m sorry. But if I am talking to YOU (and you know who you are) – just shut up.
I’ve been meaning to sit down and write this post for quite some time, since becoming a mom actually. Yes, I realize that was 14 1/2 months ago but I’ve been busy, okay?
Let’s get straight to the point: You raise your child how you choose and I will raise mine how I choose. I will not make you feel weird, guilty, ashamed or embarrassed and you will kindly return the favor, got it? I won’t turn my nose up at the fact I saw you give your 16 month old a sip of your Diet Coke or treat you like you’ve committed treason when you offer my child a juice box. Can you please offer me the same decency?
I have never felt peer pressure like I have since becoming a mom. Other women making small talk at the park but prying with their own agenda to find out if you cloth diaper, if you breast feed, if you do extended rear facing, if little Susie drinks juice, if your kid watches TV, if you wear your baby, if you sit at the table as a family for dinner – the list goes on and on and on and…
Stop telling me why you don’t vaccinate your children or reasons why extended breastfeeding is best. Stop lecturing me on why my child should never have processed foods or how I’m heartless for allowing my little one to cry-it-out from time to time.
I don’t need your approval and you shouldn’t be looking for mine. If getting on your soapbox makes you feel like a better person, cool! Just don’t get mad when I kick it out from under you.
I want to hear about your kids and how you are raising them. What I don’t want to hear is a lecture. I want to hear how you’re excited about little Mikey taking his first steps or how you found the most amazing smoothie recipe that sweet Molly gobbles up every time you make it; I want to hear about your ambitions and goals and dreams for your children, as well as your role as a parent.
It’s easy to get caught up in the drama of “do this, not that” and people will always offer their opinions, but take them how you choose. Don’t feel pressured into doing something you’re not comfortable with just to please the other women at your child’s playdate. Parenting is hard enough – we don’t need other parents making our lives that much harder.
*steps off soapbox* 😉